Posted: Fri Nov 06, 2009 2:38 am
Okay, first off, keeping an male and female together is never a good idea. I don't recommend it because males will pursue females so much, that the female will attempt to kill him to make him leave her alone. Also, keeping them in separate housing will keep the female from laying fertile clutches. There are health risks for a pregnant turtle, such as being egg bound. It's also very stressful for us turtle parents. (Remember that females can lay infertile eggs, but it's the norm for them not to do this very some often. Some girls are an exception though).
Secondly, the male was obviously fanning after being attached to the female. I don't know much about male anatomy in turtles. What I do know is that if a male is startled while fanning, they will stop abruptly and "you know who" goes back in the hatch. I would just leave him alone.
Mating is a very normal experience for turtles of both sexes when they are properly developed, in other words, over four inches in shell length or sexually mature. Females can't become pregnant until they reach three years of age. Males reach sexual maturity earlier than that.
Your male's growth isn't stunted. Males grow very slowly over time, and stay very small. We expect both sexes to grow up to four inches in their first year, and one inch per year after that. However, growth varies from turtle to turtle, so some turtles may grow more or less than that. Diet can affect growth. Excessive hibernating, which is practice by back alley and flea market breeders, can stunt growth dramatically.
If you female is over three years of age, she could have gotten pregnant. I forget how long gestation is for RES, but get a nesting box ready for her if she shows signs of being gravid: Trying to escape, digging with her back feet. Vomiting and refusing food sometimes is a sign that a girl is getting ready to lay her eggs very soon.
Phryne - Japanese bobtail, 11 y.o.
Hurricane - RES, approx. 19 y.o., 7.00in. long
Typhoon - RES hybrid, approx. 19 y.o., 8 in. long
Sadie - RES, approx. 30+ y.o., 11.5in. long
Sophie - Colombian red tail boa, 15 y.o., 5 ft. long